Geordie Lass & Doc Sass

175. Recognising your strengths in your relationship

Welcome to the Podcast!
Join us as we dive into a light-hearted yet insightful discussion about relationships, travel, and financial decisions. Our hosts reconnect from opposite sides of the Atlantic, sharing their recent adventures and the joys of summer activities, including the excitement of a new barbecue setup with an air fryer!
Love Desk: Exercising with your partner boosts positive emotions and relationship satisfaction. Do you work out with your man? 
Anna recommends a specific course of action. Tune in to find out what this is. 
 
Hot Topic: We explore the importance of recognising strengths in your relationship, moving beyond negativity, and appreciating your partner's unique contributions. Whether it's through shared values or simply acknowledging the little things, we discuss how to foster a positive, supportive dynamic.
In our hot topic segment, we tackle the often overlooked aspect of focusing on the good in your relationship rather than dwelling on the negative. Learn how to shift your perspective and celebrate the qualities that make your partnership strong.
 
Question: "My partner and I are coming into some money. It's not a massive amount, but enough. We have very different views on how to spend it. I want to buy a new car to treat ourselves, and my wife wants to use it to pay off part of the mortgage. How do we resolve this?"
Managing a financial windfall and differing opinions on how to spend it can be hard. Discover strategies for finding common ground and making decisions that strengthen your relationship rather than divide it.
Tune in for a blend of humor, practical advice, and heartfelt conversation that will help you navigate the complexities of love and life.
Till next time!
 
Get in touch
Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
Email - info@geordielass.com with your relationship hot topics or questions. All questions are fully confidential. 
 
Sara Liddle
Email: info@inflori.co.uk
Website: www.inflori.co.uk
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset
 
Anna Stratis
Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com 
Website: www.coachdocanna.com
 
 

174. Are disagreements part of everyday relationships?

Welcome to another episode of our late-night podcast for insomniacs. Sara runs on empty, and Anna's cat auditions for a part in Star Wars as she recovers. In this episode, we dive into the complexities of maintaining relationships, the art of asking the right questions, and how to handle disagreements healthily. We also touch on the delicate topic of going through a separation after a long-term relationship while still cohabitating. Join us as we explore practical advice and share personal anecdotes to help you navigate these challenging situations.
 
Love Desk: The art of asking, do you ask your partner questions about things you don't know? Most people think they are good listeners, but 97% only retain a tiny part of the information shared. 
 
Hot Topic: Are disagreements part of everyday relationships?
How does conflict show up for you in your relationship? Are you avoiding conflict, and is this happening anyway? 
Conflict is normal, but the key is ensuring it is healthy. Artificial harmony and meanness are not healthy styles of conflict. Stay curious, explore both sides and let go of things that aren't important. 
 
Question: "What advice do you have for a person going through a separation after 19 years? They have never experienced this because it is their only relationship. They feel like their world is falling apart but must stay roommates."
Listen to the insights offered on setting boundaries, maintaining individual identity, and the importance of self-care during such a transition.
 
Tune in for a blend of humour, empathy, and practical advice designed to help you navigate the intricate dynamics of love and conflict.
 
Till next time!
 
Get in touch
Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
Email - info@geordielass.com with your relationship hot topics or questions. All questions are fully confidential. 
 
Sara Liddle
Email: info@inflori.co.uk
Website: www.inflori.co.uk
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset
 
Anna Stratis
Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com 
Website: www.coachdocanna.com
 

173. Couples Question - What's the first thing you'd tell me if I lost my memory?

Welcome to the podcast!
 
It's a wakaday, the girls are on the edge. Sara is waxing lyrical about holidays and scummy food. 
 
Love Desk: Spice up your spreadsheet. Take a listen to find out more about this love desk. 
 
Hot Topic: Couples Question - What's the first thing you'd tell me if I lost my memory?
 
Anna and Sara share how they'd answer this for each other and there are new revelations between the girls. This is a great question for all couples no matter what stage you're at in your relationship. Sara's literal brain hits overdrive but in the moment she's turning to a more emotional side. Anna's a hopeless romantic right from the start of this hot topic. 
 
Question: "My son who's 36 wants to date a women who's 41 should I allow this?"
 
Issues related to fertility in age disparate couples are discussed sensitively with an emphasis on privacy, understanding, and empathy. We wrap up our conversation with a heart-warming reflection on our personal journey as parents. Through this episode, we inspire listeners to adopt an open-minded view on age difference and retirement in relationships, underscoring their unique and multi-faceted nature.
 
Till next time!
 
Get in touch
Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
Email - info@geordielass.com with your relationship hot topics or questions. All questions are fully confidential. 
 
Sara Liddle
Email: info@inflori.co.uk
Website: www.inflori.co.uk
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset
 
Anna Stratis
Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com 
Website: www.coachdocanna.com

172. Do you have 37 personalities in your relationship?

Welcome to the podcast!
 
Both girls are feeling very sleepy today Sara's not sleeping and Anna's in tax season. Fingers crossed for the podcast today.  
 
Love Desk: Short and sweet quote today but hopefully, inspirational. 
 
Hot Topic: Do you have 37 personalities in your relationship?
 
In this engaging episode, we delve deep into how personal needs, emotions, and misunderstandings get communicated and managed in relationships. Exploring the fluctuation of our personalities, affected by factors like personal growth, past experiences, work pressures, health concerns, and other life changes. Learn the significance of effective confrontation and how understanding and embracing our various personalities can lead to relationship growth and a stronger bond.
 
Get insights from our experienced relationship experts about different attachment styles, their manifestations, and their origins from our relationship with our primary caregivers. Discover how these patterns from past relationships can trigger certain reactions and influence attachment styles. Learn about the harmful effects of unpredictable behaviour and why comprehending our actions is as crucial as understanding our partner’s.
 
Question: "My girlfriend wants us to get matching tattoos and I hate them, what should I do."
 
Also, join us for a lively and thoughtful discussion on matching tattoos in relationships. Can tattoos signify deeper elements of a relationship like courage, vulnerability, and commitment? Or do they represent a misunderstanding or mismatch? We dive into a real-life story of a couple considering tattoos. How fair is it to request permanent symbols of love, and how much do these symbols matter in the relationship?
 
Till next time!
 
Get in touch
Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
Email - info@geordielass.com with your relationship hot topics or questions. All questions are fully confidential. 
 
Sara Liddle
Email: info@inflori.co.uk
Website: www.inflori.co.uk
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset
 
Anna Stratis
Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com 
Website: www.coachdocanna.com

171. Choosing Your Hard

Sara is still feeling comfy and cosy in warm winter sweaters. Anna's, for some reason, is chatting about baby wipes. She always brings an element of surprise. 
 
Love Desk: Science suggests that sleeping with your partner improves your sleep. Gain intriguing insights derived from scientific studies about sleeping better together or apart. What's your verdict?
Tune in to learn more about co-sleeping and Anna's Excel spreadsheet. 
 
Hot Topic: Have you chosen your hard in your relationship? 
Exploring what choosing your hard means, as two coaches of couples and individuals in relationships, Anna and Sara discuss what this means for your relationship. It's hard to leave, but it's also hard to stay. Which side is going to be the hardest? 
Questions: Since I've moved in with my partner, I've started to see a different side to him. He's always in a bad mood around the house because of his financial situation, and there isn't much romance left. I feel like we rushed things. It was a panic because of the money situation. Should I break up with him?
This is an excellent follow-up to the hot topic. Couples will inevitably relax after they move in together, which can cause a loss of closeness, connection, and intimacy. On top of this, financial pressure will only magnify this. Moving out of this situation can feel black and white; you're either in or out. There is more to this; further exploration is needed to work through this and make a conscious decision. It's time to lean into the challenge. 
It always ends on a food note, and this week, Sara is making Pad Thai in the @Thermomix. Perhaps they should switch to a food podcast instead. 
 
Till next time!
 
Get in touch
Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
Email info@geordielass.com with hot topics or questions about your relationship. All questions are entirely confidential. 
 
Sara Liddle
Email: info@inflori.co.uk
Website: www.inflori.co.uk
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset
Anna Stratis
Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com 
Website: www.coachdocanna.com

170. Why are marriage rates on the decline?

Welcome to the podcast!
 
Our hosts navigate the fascinating concepts of love and commitment. Covering topics ranging from the joy of revived romance after half a century to the concerning downfall in marriage rates, this discussion dives into the rich facets of relationships. 
 
Love Desk: The podcast begins with a touching recounting of a couple who return to Jersey, united after 45 years of separate lives, asserting that true love withstands the test of time.
 
Hot Topic: Why are marriage rates on the decline?
Discussing deeper concerns, about the declining marriage rates, its future impacts, and what it signifies for society's view on traditional marital commitment. Additional topics examined include the reality of marriage duration and its repercussions on cohabitation, faith, and financial aspects.
 
Marriage and Self-Achievement: Exploring the Positive Outcomes of Marital Stability
Insights are provided into both tangible and intangible benefits of marriage on personal accomplishment. Correlations are made between successful marriages, mental strength, career growth, and overall success. Toward the end, optimism fills the air as the conversation anticipates the positive changes that Gen Z could bring to future marriage trends.
 
Navigating Change in Long-Term Relationships: Fostering Self-Exploration and Personal Growth
Delving into personal fulfilment and relationship dynamics, the show explores the unsettled feelings that may crop up in enduring relationships. Emphasizing the importance of recognizing internal dialogue, the episode discourages the blame game and promotes open communication for personal growth.
 
Question: "I'm starting to get itchy feet and I can't explain it but I'm ready for a shift or change in life. The last time I felt like this, I ended up divorced. There were other issues too. I'm in a long-term relationship but we aren't married. I'm not sure how to play it or whether to say anything. I feel like they are happy and settled but something is missing for me, some personal fulfilment."
 
As the conversation moves forward, it underlines the stabilizing effect a relationship can have on career changes and debunks assumptions that could warp our perceptions of our partner's supportiveness. Ending on a high note, the hosts accentuate the value of nurturing curiosity, open communication, and delaying instant reactions to feelings of unrest. Encouraging listeners to delight in safe self-exploration within relationships, the episode stresses the importance of evolving as an individual while deepening the bond with a partner.
 
Till next time!
 
Get in touch
Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
Email - info@geordielass.com with your relationship hot topics or questions. All questions are fully confidential. 
 
Sara Liddle
Email: info@inflori.co.uk
Website: www.inflori.co.uk
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset
Anna Stratis
Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com 
Website: www.coachdocanna.com
 

169. Relationship Reset

In a rare occurrence on the Podcast, the girls deviate from their usual show format. In this eye-opening episode, they delve into the concept of a 'Relationship Reset'—an open and honest conversation about overcoming relationship challenges and embracing growth and change for a better relationship dynamic. From understanding personal roles in a relationship to breaking negative patterns that may sabotage your connection, this episode sheds light on how to approach relationship issues effectively and proactively.
They dive deep into the everyday challenges couples often face, such as conflict, communication issues, intimacy, and their impact on your relationship. They discuss the importance of shifting from a negative to a positive bias in relationships, focusing on strengths and potential for growth. Self-sabotaging tendencies often arise from deep-inset fears and insecurities; learn how a relationship reset can counteract these detrimental behaviours and foster healthier connections.
Further into the episode, the discussion leads to the importance of self-awareness and continuous personal growth within relationships. Noticing the patterns in your behaviour, changing the dynamics of an argument and making small but significant steps can lead to a lasting relationship. Their conversation also includes a detailed look into 'Relationship Reset', a 12-week course designed to help couples navigate the rough patches of their relationship through constant learning and adaptation.
The Relationship Reset is a 12-week course, delivered in weekly bitesize modules so as not to be overwhelming. You can take this on your own or with your partner. It takes you through why you face the everyday challenges in your relationship, and you can learn about your attachment style and your partners. You can understand how to get more kindness and compassion in your relationship and build on your strengths. Move beyond hopelessness in your relationship, start taking action in a small, achievable way and make a difference in your relationship.
Finally, they address taking responsibility for personal actions rather than shifting blame onto partners. As they wrap up, they provide comforting assurance that it is never too late to work on your relationship, reinstating the significance of open communication, understanding and breaking the cycle of destructive patterns.
Listen in and unearth the tools needed to breathe new life into your relationship and awaken the possibilities of lasting love!
Ready to take a Relationship Reset? Here's the link https://sales.inflori.co.uk/relationship-reset-3/
 

168. Celebrating the differences between us

Welcome to the Podcast!!
The girls keep things real in this episode, Anna is sharing a very real experience, about money, relationships and being triggered by all. Spring is on the horizon and Sara is feeling loved up so she's banking on this for when the reserves are a little lower. 
 
Love Desk: Sharing new concepts you may have not heard of before, today this is 'weaponized responsibility'. This could be a hot topic in its way as the girls delve deep into the ramifications of miscommunication and misaligned priorities leading to potential challenges and breakdowns, particularly within household responsibilities. Does anyone resonate with the road trip playlist scenarios? 
 
Hot Topic: Celebrating the differences between us
A great hot topic that follows on from the love desk. From exploring deeply embedded belief systems and values to the simple way we handle tasks and day-to-day requirements. The differences between us can lead to some seismic gaps between us. 
 
There is often a baseline level of compatibility, but this doesn't override the fact that there are differences between us, as demonstrated by the Gottman Institute research 60 to 70% of things between you will never be resolved. 
 
If you can work on the principle there is no right or wrong, only difference, it's all to be celebrated. 
 
Question: "My partner and I have been fighting for well over two years, we have one child together and I have three stepchildren, we've been married for 6 years and more recently it feels like it's us against them. I'm tired of all the arguing, help!" 
 
A question that creates more questions for our Relationship Coaches, they are curious about how this started, when it started and what may have triggered the disharmony. What are the dynamics in this relationship that are triggering a negative in this relationship? The cycle can be difficult to identify and break. This listener sounds like they feel isolated in this relationship which is a red flag. You should also feel safe in your own home.
 
Often the blended family is the assumed source of disharmony but this might not be the case. You have no idea if you would come up against the same challenges had you stayed in your prior relationship with the maternal parent. 
 
The girls finish this relationship workout on a high. 
 
Till next time!
 
Get in touch
Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
Email - info@geordielass.com with your relationship hot topics or questions. All questions are fully confidential. 
 
Sara Liddle
Email: info@inflori.co.uk
Website: www.inflori.co.uk
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset
 
Anna Stratis
Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com 
Website: www.coachdocanna.com

167. Is the digital world moving us closer to arranged marriages?

Welcome to the Podcast!!!
Our hosts are delighted to record today and looking for to chatting all things love. 
 
Love Desk: If you're a female you will be delighted with this news, unless you are Anna, take a listen to find out why this is triggering her bothers today. 
 
Hot Topic: Is the digital world moving us closer to arranged marriages?
What will the future of dating look like? The girls discuss key insights on the re-shaping of the dating world, the challenges of maintaining a genuine connection amidst digital noise, and the roller coaster ride of online dating. From creating an authentic online dating profile to navigating virtual distractions. 
 
Question: "My partner and I come from very different financial backgrounds, we are due to get married in 18 months and I think we should have a prenup, my partner says that in the eyes of god, we need to unite as one and that once we marry we should pool or resources for the good of our family unit, I can see their point but just don't know what to do for the best?"  
 
The impact of finances on relationship dynamics. From discussions around pre-nuptial agreements to the essence of open money discussions in relationships, the episode offers pragmatic advice for those battling financial decisions in their love life.
With an emphasis on crucial factors like finances, desires, and family planning within relationships, this episode is abundant in practical wisdom. It stresses the importance of talking about money before marriage, managing shared resources, and eliminating unhealthy assumptions. Furthermore, it brings about the perfect balance between financial independence and co-dependency in relationships.
 
An enlightening episode with a real zest as the hosts discuss the simple joys of life and small personal victories. It's not just an eye-opening episode about the logistics of love; it's a hearty conversation about life, joy, and happiness. The girls are winning at life, and Sara is still evangelical about her Thermomix. 
 
Till next time!
 
Get in touch
Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
Email - info@geordielass.com with your relationship hot topics or questions. All questions are fully confidential. 
 
Sara Liddle
Email: info@inflori.co.uk
Website: www.inflori.co.uk
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset
 
Anna Stratis
Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com 
Website: www.coachdocanna.com
 

166. Me, You & Us

Sara is a shining light on the podcast today and embracing her blanket. Anna's being a domestic goddess, cooking up a storm. They are feeling blessed and privileged. 
 
Love Desk: The love desk is causing a stir today, tune in to listen and find out what the girls are chatting about and if they agree with the desk of love ....
 
Hot Topic: Me, You & Us
The complicated business of who we are as people when we are in a relationship, as the girls discuss, interdependence and levels of connectedness in a relationship. 
 
Question: "My partner is dying, they don't have long left to live and they have this crazy idea that I should hook up with their best friend. I can't even think about being with anyone other than my gorgeous partner but they are really pushing hard for this." 
 
It's an emotional end to the podcast this week as the girls discuss a difficult situation for one listener. 
 
Another great episode of relationship fixing. 
 
 
Till next time!
 
Get in touch
Geordie Lass & Doc Sass
Email - info@geordielass.com with your relationship hot topics or questions. All questions are fully confidential. 
 
Sara Liddle
Email: info@inflori.co.uk
Website: www.inflori.co.uk
Relationship Reset: www.inflori.co.uk/reset
 
Anna Stratis
Email: coachdocanna@gmail.com 
Website: www.coachdocanna.com